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Carol Abaya Associates has developed unique audience interactive programs that provide an unusual perspective of the emotions involved in aging, elder/parent care, and role reversal and that help develop techniques and build skills to achieve positive caregiving objectives.

According to a Chinese philosopher, knowledge is the key to a better life.

Certainly, knowledge and understanding of the aging process, what the elder is experiencing and feeling, and the roller coaster emotions of role reversal help sandwich generationers meet new life challenges.

The key objective of The Sandwich Generation® is to help family and professional geriatric caregivers increase their understanding of elder issues, better handle often emotional elder care responsibilities and reduce the stress of caregiving.

Baby Boomers, the country's largest population segment, are the heart of the sandwich generation. They are dealing with the fastest-growing population segment, those 85+.

Becoming a parent to a parent is what we call a new role on the stage of life for which no one can ever rehearse.

We have developed unique programs because 25% of American families are currently dealing with elder/parent care issues. This percentage is expected to increase to as much as 60% in the next decade or so.

Our programs are specially geared to:
Family caregivers
Geriatric and health care professionals
Corporate management and executives
A CD or DVD is available upon request and provides program highlights and TV appearances.
They are designed to:
increase the understanding of the aging process and dynamics and the emotions of both elders and caregivers.
strengthen caregving skills and develop new ones for all caregivers, both family and professionals.
provide TIPS for making caregiving more effective and less stressful.
enable caregivers to more sensitively help elders maintain independence and a higher quality of life.
help reduce employee turnover, and the inherent high costs involved, in corporations and health care facilities.


Family Caregivers:
Family members make up the vast majority of elder caregivers. They are the unpaid heroes of the 21st century.  Today there are as many male caregivers as female.  70% of women work full-time outside the home.  Almost 20% of working women have either reduced the number of hours they work, taken advantage of flex-time, or quit working to stay home and care for an elder.  

Caregivers are struggling to balance all their multi-generational responsibilities and still maintain, what Carol calls, their "I Self."  

Consequently, any informational help given to individual caregivers snowballs positively to the overall society.   

Reaching this audience, as well as the seniors themselves, provides tremendous community outreach and marketing opportunities for any organization involved with elder care and/or family issues. 


The Professional Health Care Arena:
According to Provider magazine, the average annual turnover rate for certified health aides (the mainstay of nursing homes) is 71% and for RNs 50%.

Staff retention is the key to consistent quality care, customer satisfaction, and a positive bottom line.  It is also critical given today's state and federal regulations for licensing and accreditation.

Interactive programs:
provide a new perspective on the emotional issues of aging and caregivers and elders' psyche.
strengthen staff caregiving skills and develop new ones.
focus on developing techniques to enhance resident/family--staff relations.
enable staff to more sensitively meet customer (both resident and family) needs.


The Corporate Arena:
As more Americans live well into their 80s and 90s, elder care will affect most employees at some point in their work careers.

Employers simply cannot afford to lose the irreplaceable expertise and knowledge of many of their most experienced and dedicated employees -- particularly when the labor force is expanding more slowly than in previous years. (Elder Care and the Work Force by Andrew E. Scharlach, Ph.D.)

The statistics tell the story:
In reality, more productivity is lost from employees having to fulfill elder/parent care responsibilities than for child care ones.
More than $34 billion a year is lost in productivity.
Some studies indicate lost productivity and additional health costs amount to $25,000 per caregiver employee.
An Abaya extrapolation indicates a more costly formula -- for every 34 employees a company has, it loses the equivalent of one full year's worth of productivity.
Divide the number of employees by 34, and multiply that number by the average salary and benefits package cost. You then get bottom line dollar loss impact.
Efficient productivity of prime employees and retention of knowledgeable and experienced staff are critical to maintaining a competitive edge and positive bottom line. 


Program Specifics:

Program #1: The Emotions of Aging -- THE Most Critical Element
Emotions, because they can't be 'seen' or 'felt' by anyone else are the most difficult element in elder care scenarios. Participants will actually experience what the elder is experiencing in this unique skill building session.

Program #2: Alzheimer's & Dementia - How to Deal With Unreality
With millions of older Americans experiencing Alzheimer's or some other dementia, learning how to cope with the progress of such illnesses and the stresses involved is critical. Participants learn techniques to help elders retain their own dignity and to reduce caregiver stress.

Program #3: Corporate Specials
Corporate programs combine Program #1 or #2 with the development of a better understanding of what elder care responsibilities means to productivity loss and corporate bottom line. Also, TIPS on how to more effectively deal with caregiving employees.

Program #4: Protecting Assets: What NOT to Do

This is a one-of-a-kind program geared to both seniors and sandwich generationers involved with the finances of their aging parents.  All too often families unwittingly put seniors assets/money at risk.  Avoiding risks is critical.  Information provided here is not available anywhere else. 

Program #5: Conference Specials

Programs are specifically developed and tailored to meet conference (organization) objectives and audience.

Program Length: The length of a program depends on the audience and sponsor objectives and ranges from 1 1/2 hours to all day. The basic family caregiver program is 1 1/2 hours. Professional geriatric and corporate programs are a minimum of two hours.

Program Costs: Our fee depends on the audience and length of the program. Out-of-pocket and travel expenses are billed separately at cost.

Geographic Coverage: There are no restrictions as to the location of a program. We are located in New Jersey, USA. National and international presentations are welcomed.

For More Information or to Schedule a Program
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(Carol Abaya) Personally
At 732-536-6215

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