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Welcome to the Sandwich Generation®: a very special site.

Being a Sandwich Generationer - an elder/parent caregiver - is a new role on the stage of life for which no one can ever rehearse. Becoming a parent to an aging parent presents extraordinary challenges.

The challenges to elders are just as daunting. To lose control of one's life - even the little things - can be shocking and frustrating.

The term "sandwich generation" today is new in society's long history of the written language.

As more baby boomers become both sandwich generationers and seniors, the need to understand aging dynamics and family relationships increases dramatically.

"A Survival Course for The Sandwich Generation. Carol Abaya learned the hard way what it's like to care for Elderly Parents. She wants to make it easier for others." New York Times Article

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Don't Feel Guilty - The trap is always there. Will YOU fall in? Learn how to avoid the high stressor "Guilt Trap".
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Communicating with Elders - Improve elder relationships and develop win-win strategies. TIPS tell you what to do and what not to do.
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Is it Alzheimer's? - Dementia and Alzheimer's affects a large portion of the elderly. Down-to-earth coping TIPS.
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Don't Quit Your Job - Reasons why you should not quity your job to stay home and care for a sick or aged loved one.
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Spirituality in Old Age - Spiritual and physical health go hand-in-hand. Nurturing the spirit, from both non-religious and religious vantage points, is important
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End of Life Decisions - How to make tough decisions that need to be made. It's ok to let go.

The Sandwich Generation

Traditional: those sandwiched between aging parents who need care and/or help and their own children.

Club Sandwich: those in their 50s or 60s, sandwiched between aging parents, adult children and grandchildren. OR those in their 30s and 40s, with young children, aging parents and grandparents.*

Open Faced: anyone else involved in elder care.*

* Terms coined by Carol Abaya


As Carol says, it's not easy to become elderly or a parent to your parent(s). After all, our society "says" adults should be able to take care of themselves. But, as more live well into their 80s and 90s and families are dispersed across the country, everyone is going to be involved somehow, some way, in elder care. If not today, then tomorrow.

This site is dedicated to providing timely and timeless in depth material to "Sandwich Generationers®," those sandwiched between aging parents and their own children, and covers a number of key areas, critical to elder care -- from aging in general to legal, medical and financial issues. Many TIPS oriented articles are offered at minimal cost at the Information Store. They are geared to help make the challanges of being a Sandwich Generationer® a little easier.

Just do remember:

There is no one right way or wrong way to "do" elder/parent care.

Every situation and relationship is different.

There is no magic wand to make a tough situation better.

As The Sandwich Generation® site is TIPS and sharing oriented, we would like to hear from you -- your concerns, your own experiences and TIPS that can help others.

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